Yesterday, I was sitting here looking through my Xanga feed, and I stumbled upon a comment by one of my friends. What I gathered from both, was that friend wrote a blog that [might have] directly attacked the person who wrote the blog that the friend then commented on. The blog was a direct attack back. The comment then struck a chord with me. It said something along the lines of "I rarely delete posts because once its up there, you can't reverse what its done once you take it down" and then friend continued to apologize for what he did or said.

The reason this struck a chord was because as a general rule of thumb I do not delete blogs or comments. The reason I don't delete blogs is because you have a choice as to whether you read it or not, and I always mean what I say. I may be angry, but in that moment of anger I mean it. If I'm sad, I mean what I say. And it doesn't make sense to me to take down what I feel and bottle it up, just because it makes you feel uncomfortable. Like I said it was your choice. I don't delete comments, either (unless its obviously spam). I feel as though negative comments often are meant to make the writer look bad, but I think it says more about a reader and who they are if they feel its necessary to leave an over-the-top comment.

I'm pretty sure I even left up a blog that my friend made to slander my name when she hacked my account. I later explained the blog and detailed what she did, but I left it as proof.

Do you delete negative comments? Have you ever deleted a blog because of another person? Why or why not?

We all deal with difficult people every day. Some are rude and impolite, some like confrontation, and others just don't seem to get it. This isn't that big of a deal if you don't have to be around these people, but a whole new problem is presented when its a coworker. You can't just get a new coworker, or never see them again (like a customer, or a stranger in the street). You have to deal with them every single day. I've had enough of these coworkers, that I think a few tips on how to deal with them are in order:

• Change your scenery. When you work around the same coworker long enough and often enough, things that they may do can start to get old and irritate you more. By simply trying to take a break when you start to feel the stress, or working with a different coworker or by yourself for awhile can be enough to diffuse the tension and let you both continue your jobs. 
• Don't fuel the fire. I'm especially prone to retaliating. My thought process is often along the lines of You think you can use me? Well, I can do the same thing and get you to do what you are trying to avoid! This isn't usually a good thing. Doing things like this are childish, and don't solve anything. This can lead to bigger confrontations, and more tension between you.
• Lend a helping hand. Sometimes, a coworkers bad attitude is caused by something outside of work. Thats usually the case with everyone, so whether its stress at home, or even feelings of worthlessness at the job, by asking if anything is wrong or helping them out to do their job better can be extremely useful to help bring that attitude back to the positives. 
• Get a third party involved. I am not one to look for outside help in most situations. I like to handle things myself, and usually just ignore the debbie-downer coworker, but sometimes you've done all you can, and the situation still isn't any better. Bringing in a supervisor or manager can be extremely helpful. A happy workplace is a productive workplace, and productivity is their main goal. It also helps if you acknowledge that you have no ill intentions toward said coworker, and that you've tried to deal with it yourself, but are out of options.
• Move on. If you are around a coworker with a bad attitude long enough, your productivity and attitude are going to be affected too. If you absolutely cannot deal with them anymore, and have exhausted all your other options, you might just need to get a new job. No one should be unhappy at their jobs, so look for somewhere better.

How do you deal with difficult coworkers? Need to vent about someone?

For the record, I have only had one boyfriend. I've had some other encounters, but nothing that's actually worth mentioning. I'm 22, and I'e been living a life wondering where all of those awesome guys are, and what may be potentially undateable about yours truly. 

What makes this worse better more complicated, is the appearance of people I've known at various times in my life who then decided to tell me they liked me x amount of years ago. Most recently, a guy I went to elementary, middle, and high school with (small town) decided to tell me he has had a crush on me since middle school. Apparently, assuming he isn't lying, he still likes me. Of course, I haven't seen him in 4 years and we've not talking in that amount of time. The only contact we've had is being Facebook friends. Oh yeah, and he is in the military, so he isn't in a geographically desirable position.

You remember that 1 boyfriend I had? Well, when we were dating about 5 or 6 guys I was friends with decided to tell me they had liked me before we started dating. One of my best friends even told me he was going to ask me to be his girlfriend the same day my then boyfriend did, and had meant to weeks before, but was too intimidated. And, what complicates the matter further, is that I had liked at least half of the guys at the same time they liked me. 

I'll admit I've done this a couple times. I'm not even sure why I did it or what I gained from the experience.

What is the point of telling someone you liked them ages ago? Have you done this or had it done to you? Should I give the newest guy to come out of the wood works a chance?